READERS GUIDE

Reader’s Guide
A Little Ray of Sunshine by Kristan Higgins
Discussion Questions:


1.   Initially, it seems like Monica has a more realistic idea of motherhood, compared to Harlow’s idealized concept of it. As the book goes on, how do Monica’s and Harlow’s expectations about motherhood change, and why?

2.   Monica worries that her son is manipulative for the way he blew up both her and Harlow’s lives with the Cape Cod trip. Later, he pulls a similar stunt to meet his birth father, and the consequences finally catch up with him. Do you think Monica was right? Why are she and Sanjay upset? Why do you think Matthew felt the need to be so secretive?

3.   Many young women are faced with unexpected pregnancies, and they have to make an incredibly difficult decision about what to do next. Why do you think Harlow chooses to give her baby up for adoption? Why doesn’t she get an abortion instead? Why doesn’t she keep the baby and let her family help raise him?

4.   Harlow hid a huge secret from her family for eighteen years. Do you think Harlow’s mother’s reaction to her secret pregnancy was fair? How would you react if a family member had hidden the same secret Harlow did?

5.   Harlow’s life was comfortable but quiet on the Cape before Matthew came back. Do you think Harlow was happy before her son found her? She claimed everything was fine, but do you think that was denial or the truth?

6.   At the beginning of the book, Cynthia seems self-centered and cynical, especially when it comes to family. How did Matthew’s reunion with his birth family affect her character? Do you think Cynthia would have agreed to meet her sisters if not for Matthew?

7.   No one knew that Cynthia had been adopted, yet she still felt like an outcast in the family. Her perspective on the family starkly contrasts with Harlow’s. How much of Cynthia’s isolation from the Smith family do you think was of her own making, and how much of it was reality? What could Harlow and her siblings have done differently to prevent Cynthia from feeling excluded?

8.   Sanjay’s relationship with Matthew is vastly different from Monica’s, just as Monica’s relationship with her son is different from Harlow’s. Each of them has strengths and weaknesses when it comes to Matthew, but Monica’s point of view reveals that she is resentful of the others’—Sanjay, who gets to be the easygoing parent, and Harlow, who receives Matthew’s love without having done the work for the last eighteen years. Do you relate to Monica’s frustrations, or do you relate more to Sanjay’s or Harlow’s perspectives? Do you think Monica has reason to fear Matthew’s relationship with Harlow?

9.   Harlow is surrounded by affectionate relationships: her parents, Lillie and Ben, her Grandpop and Frances. Even Sanjay and Monica seem infatuated with each other—that’s why she chose them to raise her son. Why, then, does Harlow keep romance at a distance, and how much do you think the absence of her son influences that? What changes at the end of the novel to convince her to take the leap with Grady?

10. Matthew’s parents did the best they could to be transparent about his adoption, accepting of his emotions, and supportive of his
decisions, but they still feel that Matthew betrayed them by staying with Harlow at the end of the summer. Why do you think he made that decision? And why does he decide to leave?

11.  Both Cynthia and Matthew were put up for adoption by young mothers, but Cynthia’s birth parents were forced to do so, while Harlow chose it. Cynthia’s adoptive parents hid that fact from her, whereas Matthew’s discussed it openly. Then, Matthew sought out his birth family, while Cynthia’s contacted her. Compare their experiences further and discuss. How do you think their lives might have changed if their parents handled the topic of adoption differently?

12. Harlow suggests to Grady that they date quietly rather than move toward a committed relationship. Grady rejects that idea and tells Harlow she’s stuck in the past, still living a carefully curated life. What did you think of that conversation? How well do you think Grady knows Harlow?

13. Harlow’s family is full of complicated relationships, and Harlow’s secret pregnancy and Cynthia’s pessimism are only the beginning of them. But there is also a lot of love to go around. Would you want to be part of Harlow’s family? What do you think are the good parts of being a member of your family? And what do you think are the hard parts of it?

14. Rosie’s alcoholism was a surprise to Harlow, as it can be for many loved ones of alcoholics. Why do you think Harlow never noticed it before? How did you judge Harlow’s reaction once Rosie admitted to her addiction?

15. Harlow’s romantic life was never more than a distraction from the loss she felt without Matthew, until he finally came back and she let herself fall for Grady. Do you think Harlow’s brother is just a distraction for Rosie while she copes with her addiction? Or do you think Rosie truly loves him, and he will be part of her recovery?

16. Matthew’s decision to stay with Harlow at the end of the summer was a huge change to his life—and Harlow’s. Do you think Monica should have done more to prevent him from staying? Do you think Harlow was justified in agreeing to it?

17. Harlow has to quickly learn how to be a parent to her nearly adult child. Think about the parenting choices she made throughout the book, from their first outing—paddleboarding with a possible shark sighting—to relinquishing him back to the Patels. What mistakes did she make? What successes did she have? What do you think are the most important lessons she learned about motherhood?